Coping with a breakup(Die Worse) is hard for everyone, but in my opinion, it is harderfor men than it is for women. This is especially true for all those men who were involved inlong-term relationships.
why it is so difficult to get over a breakup: not being able to let go of false hope. Most men are stuck in limbo with the idea that there might be a chance of getting back together with their women.
The result of such beliefs is a double-edged rejection sword.This personactually inflicts prolonged and repetitive pain. First comes the initial sting originating from the breakup itself. Then comes the gut-wrenching, heart-breaking hope that she will return, and eventually the realization that she does not regret leaving you — and she is gone for good.
All this pain could be kept short and sweet if a man would just learn to accept the decision made by his “new” ex-girlfriend and move on with his life. By waiting around and hoping, a man is trapping himself in an endless circle of torture.
You control the situation: A man cannot prevent his woman from leaving him, but he can definitely control the whole breakup situation. Some men make the whole experience a lot more difficult than it really is. You can think of going through a breakup as similar to preparing a martini — you take it either stirred or shaken.
The time it takes for a man to recover from the breakup depends on how he serves himself a martini. Most men will take it shaken. They sit around the house reading old love letters, looking at old photos and listening to meaningful love songs while reminiscing about the past.
Now you’re probably wondering why I believe it is more difficult for men.The answer is simple: we all know that one of the best ways to recover from a breakup is to meet new people. Well, after a breakup, men have a more difficult time meeting new women than women have meeting men.
Just think about it for a moment. If you break up with your girlfriend, all she has to do is go down to the local cafe, bar, club (you name it) and she’ll have atleast one man approach her. If she wants, she’ll be with him by night’s end.
On the other hand, the fragile, ego-broken man who was just dumped by his girlfriend now has the difficult task of approaching a strange woman and risk being rejected all over again.
Of course, his job is made a lot more difficult because he has to approach a woman while dealing with his new desperate state of mind (which definitely does not improve his chances: women hate desperate men), broken ego and rusty “pickup” skills.
Needless to say, his efforts are headed for doom, which will only cause his ego to be shattered further.
This is my personal view and Experience.
Author: Rudolph DSouza- India