‘Dress What You are Wearing is Shameful’ -Auto Driver tells Lady Journo
A few days ago, an auto-driver in Mumbai body-shamed a girl and asked her to get out of his auto because she was ‘too fat’. On April 24, a Bengaluru-based journalist Aishwarya Subramanian claimed that an auto driver slut-shamed her and advised her to not wear the kind of short clothes she was wearing. By the way, the Auto-driver should mind his own business- who is he to tell his passengers, what to wear, and what not to wear?
Mangaluru: In a Facebook post that has gone viral, Subramanian narrated the entire incident and posted pictures of the auto-driver. She’d even tweeted about it. As soon as she got out of the auto, she wrote, “The fare metre was 40 but I asked him to keep 50 as it was hot outside. And then he looks at me for a second and says – ‘please don’t mind me but what you are wearing is inappropriate’. I stand there shocked.”
Subramanian, who claimed to be on the verge of crying, told him it wasn’t his business. A few men gathered taking note of the hullabaloo and even agreed with the driver’s view. “Apparently a girl who lives in a society like mine should be dressed more modestly and like a woman,” they believe. But then, two men from a store Subramanian often visits stood in her support, and “told the auto driver and the moral police” that she could wear what she wanted and when she wanted.
“You want to know why we fight for our dignity? Because even the clothes we wear makes us sluts. What is the point in being a girl in this country anymore? I feel so embarrassed,” wrote Subramanian. Soon, she posted the auto diver’s pictures on Facebook, after he gave his consent with the logic that he believed the public would agree with him.
Her Facebook posting read like this:
This man’s name is Srikanth. About five minutes ago I got out of his auto. The fare metre was 40 but I asked him to keep 50 as it was hot outside. And then he looks at me for a second and says – “please don’t mind me but what you are wearing is inappropriate”. I stand there shocked. And then I tell him clearly that as long as I am paying he has no right to tell me what I can or cannot wear. Then he gets out of the auto to tell me why I shouldn’t be dressed like a slut (I am wearing a white summer dress that reaches my knee). A few men gather as I take pictures. One man who has gathered tells me that the auto driver is right. Apparently a girl who lives in a society like mine should be dressed more modestly and like a woman. I am about to start crying at this point.
This is the first time I have been so publicly slut shamed. Thankfully two men who came from a junk food store I frequent and told the auto driver and the moral police that I get to wear what I want when I want. I walk away feeling shell shocked and ashamed. You want to know why we fight for our dignity? Because even the clothes we wear makes us sluts. What is the point in being a girl in this country anymore? I feel so embarrassed. My building’s guard was standing right there as these men called me a slut for wearing the clothes I wore. This is who I am. These are the clothes I wear. Everyone else can fuck off. Anyone can share this post. I am done feeling ashamed for being me.
Edit: Since there are those who think I posted this without this man’s consent (thereby insinuating that I am the one who’s publicly shaming someone). Here’s the real deal: I actually asked his permission before taking his picture and posting it on social media! He said that he wanted “his message” out because the country will agree with him and not me. I gave him far more respect than he did me. Please please don’t think these pictures exist here without consent. I have it! And given how skewered the Indian mentality sometimes can be, I actually think he has a point when he says that there will be people agreeing with what he had to say.
Inputs from YahooNews