Mangaluru: Likes and dislikes of the couple is not a reason for increasing divorces in India, said Dr Spurgeon, Associate Professor of Madras Christian College, Chennai.
He was speaking in a session on Family work interface at School of Social Work, Roshni Nilaya organized by the Mangalore Chapter of National Institute of Personnel Management in association with the Human Resource Management Forum on 26 September 2015.
Increasing divorces shows the unpreparedness of our new generation. Our young people take more time to choose dress items than choosing their life partner. This is not right. Dress you have selected can be changed or discarded whenever you want but you cannot change your husband or wife as you like. Dress you can at least gift to someone. Nobody will be interested to accept your wife or husband as a gift. Hence you should choose your life partner very carefully.
Dr Spurgeon also touched upon topics like conflict resolution. When there are confusions, better not to take decisions. We should understand the importance of love over likes. Relationship should be built upon love not on likes. There are many occasions in life one may compare his/her spouse with others. These generalizations should be avoided for a healthy family life. No one is like any other one.
Striking a balance between family and work is very important. One should not hamper the other. It is very sad to note, there are many young people who postpone their marriage for the sake of their career. There are many couples who postpone birth of their children for the sake of the company in which they work. Surprisingly, there are companies that are insisting employees to avoid child birth in their families. This is ridiculous and such instances are to be viewed very serious by authorities, Dr Spurgeon added.