Let Every Day be a Mother’s Day!

May 10th is Mother’s Day.  Many of you will call and wish your mother or send her flowers, candies etc or take her to a sumptuous lunch or dinner at a restaurant. Once the Mother’s Day is over, are you going to stop loving your mom or stop caring and showing respect to her. I hope not!. Mothers need to be loved and cared every single day of the year and not just on Mother’s Day.

Mothers are always there.  Before you were born, they took care of you. They tended to your every need, no matter how big or small. Once you are born, you become their priority. They place you before all others and will do so your entire life. They are there to celebrate your grand achievements and they are there to catch you when you fall.

Mothers care and pray for your well-being as you venture out into this world on your own, and their worries never end. They are the light at the end of the tunnel, always lit, vigilantly awaiting your return. They are a never ending presence in this world. Once their physical being has long since left this earth, their souls remain with you always-and they are our beloved Mothers forever.

It has been nearly five years since my mother passed away and every time Mother’s Day comes around I find myself remembering her many acts of unselfish love towards our entire family. I recall her delightfully pleasant personality. Oh, how she loved to laugh. My mom was always there for me when I needed help. She was my source of warmth and comfort, my greatest encouragement, my confidante-She was my mother and my best friend, and I miss her deeply.

My mother watched me experience all the joys and pains this world had to offer. She always encouraged me, never doubted me, made me believe in myself and never let me down. She was the first person I turned to when I needed help and advice. My mother was very religious, and she taught me the values of religion and faith.

She made me say the Rosary with her every night when I was a kid and even when I was an adult. Sometimes I dozed off during rosary. She used to yell at me, “Son, wake up. You stay awake when you party with your friends at night, but when it comes to adore God, you sleep.” But her anger faded pretty fast, and she forgave me as usual.

The love we shared was a bond of the strongest kind. It was love of the present, interwoven with memories of the past and dreams of the future. It was strengthened by overcoming  obstacles and facing fears and challenges together. It was sacrifice and tears, laughter and hugs. It was understanding, patience and believing in each other. Although we were thousands of miles away from each other, the relationship between me and my mom was very close. I used to call her once or twice every week. Her words of wisdom and thoughtful advice meant a lot to me. Every Mother’s Day when I wished her “Happy Mother’s Day, Mom” she would inevitably reply, “Alfred, every day is Mother’s Day!” She was a wonderful mother. I miss her very much.  

We are all encouraged to think about what we owe our mothers. But what about what we owe other people’s mothers, or any other woman who mothered us in an unexpected way? There’s a good chance that when you were young, someone else’s mother did something nice for you that she barely remembers but you’ll never forget. So don’t forget to greet and thank them–it will surely touch their hearts.

Remembering my beloved and very special mother, I thank her for being such a wonderful mother with a thought-provoking quote- “If there is happiness in my heart, it’s because you helped put it there. If there is gentleness in my beliefs, it’s because you showed me how to care. If there is understanding in my thinking, it’s because you shared the wisdom. Thank you mom, for all your love”.

Finally, to all of you commemorating Mother’s Day–please take care, love and respect your mother every single day of the year, and not just on Mother’s Day. After all she remains to be your mother all year long–year after year. Happy Mother’s Day!

Author: Alfie DSouza- Illinois